What do Courts Look at in a Custody Dispute II?

 Today we continue examining what factors Judges consider when ruling on a custody dispute.

3. Continuing Care of the Child    

                   The idea of continuing care has taken the same legal status that the maternal preference used to have.  Courts look here to the day to day activities to determine which parent provided care. The inquiry includes a question of who bathed, dressed, put to bed, prepared meals, arranged babysitters and extracurricular activities, bought clothing and other items, dealt with medical care, read to, played with and made educational arrangements for the child. While not stated in statute or in case law this is the most heavily weighted factor in Mississippi. Courts rely heavily on this factor, especially when awarding custody to the father. Courts have awarded custody based on this factor in spite of compelling moral factors that may mitigate against a custody award (we will address these later) such as bigamy or adultery. Courts have awarded custody to a mother with severe emotional problems on the policy of continuity of care for the child.  Continuity of care, like any of the factors, is subordinated to strong parenting skills and a stable environment. Claiming continuity of care when a third party (here the ex-husbands parents) did a majority of the work is insufficient.  Courts will look at continuity of care before the separation period and during all other periods of custody.                                                                                                       

4. Parenting Skills               

               Courts also look to more physical activities and daily routines to evaluate each parent’s parenting skills and determine each parent’s ability to provide physical care, support, discipline and guidance, under the totality of the circumstances.  Courts inquire as to who met personal hygiene and medical needs, whether the parent orchestrated appropriate social engagement and extracurricular activities, whether the parent spent free time with the child. Courts have also awarded custody based on improved behavior and school attendance while in the custody of one parent; and on one parent’s pursuit of adequate counseling and other educational needs. Factors indicative of poor parenting skills include failure to supervise or prevent harm, failure to make ones home safe, exposure of the child to parental disputes, harassment of the other parent, voluntary or forced relinquishment of rights concerning other children, or disobedience of any custody orders. Courts have denied custody based on a finding of inability to take personal responsibility for ones actions.

2 Responses to “What do Courts Look at in a Custody Dispute II?”

  1. Patrick Jacobson on July 5th, 2008 8:19 pm

    I have an issue; my Ex-wife moved from Georgia to TN 4 yrs ago; we “redid” the visitation; obviously living 35 miles apart and living 1100 miles apart (I live in Jax, FL) requires different agreements due to the logistical nightmare. Almost immediately, she started denying visitation (with convenient reasons usually, but sometimes, just blatant disregard) - appearantly, she was informed that it would be “financial suicide” for me to try and fight it. They were wrong. (becareful denying a parent visitation/access to their children, yes?) But they were not completely wrong - it has been almost 3 years, and I cannot get this thing heard in court! We are on our 12-13th postponement, each one more transparent than the last, is this common in Memphis? Tennessee wide? My children are now 11 and 15 - went through another divorce last year, and are “battle weary”. Now I have a court date 3-4 months away. I don’t mean to sound cynical, but it looks/smells like the next postponement and motion hearing, reset the clock for 3-4 months - rinse/repeat. Oh yea, my bill is north of 85K (just a scad over the $5K probable; $15K worst case scenario I was originally “sold”). Is there any recourse? Any way to propel the courts to hear my case? This is getting WAAAYYY beyond rediculous. The financial burden is so over the top; most of the legal advice I have received here in Florida is summarized this way: “…you must be wrong; there’s just no way this could happen …” I assure you: it can, and it is.

  2. lawyer on July 23rd, 2008 5:18 pm

    Patrick,

    Your situation definitely doesn’t sound normal. As a general rule a custodial parent cannot deny visitation that is set by the court. To deny visitation without a court order granting this right would be in violation of the court. In some cases it has even been a determining factor in giving custody to the other parent. However, this is usually only in situations that the court deems “egregious” and shocking.

    Without knowing more about your case I am unable to give you any more specific information.

    As to the continuations, those also seem excessive. I would recommend that you seek a second opinion of another local attorney regarding your case. Even if this costs you an hour’s worth of fees for the consultatoin you should consider it money well spent.

    James

    This is not intended as legal advice. Please consult an attorney for all your legal matters.

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