Back in July I originally wrote about a little quirk that I have as a Memphis Divorce Lawyer. That quirk is that I actually don’t want to see you get divorced. I’d much rather you be able to work out everything with your spouse and save your marriage. You can read that original post here.
Well, this month I’m back with more links to videos that I think could really help you if you’re looking to save your marriage.
These videos are something that I believe every single person who is considering a divorce should view. And like the last video I linked up, these too feature Andy Savage who is the teaching pastor at Highpoint Church in Memphis, TN.
The title of Andy’s series is “A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage“. There are four videos, each with a different theme. I’m linking each of these videos for you below.
Video 1: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “YOU are the Problem”
Video 2: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “The Three Fundamental Skills of Marriage”
Video 3: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “The Intimacy Gap”
Video 4: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “Why we fight”
Or, if you’re looking for all the videos in one place you can find them here.
Again, I can’t stress how important it is to first attempt to save your message before you ever give me a call. Watch these videos and do a lot of self-reflection, then watch them with your spouse if at all possible. These videos may not end up helping you save your marriage, but I promise you will be a better person for watching them and you’ll be better prepared for the trials ahead.
Also, if you’re looking for somewhere to turn to during these dark days please visit Highpoint Church here in Memphis. It’s the church I attend and love. I think you’ll find that it’s a different kind of church experience. It’s full of people who know that they aren’t perfect and know that you probably aren’t either.
You can find them on the web at HighpointMemphis.com.
P.S. Come to Highpoint’s Christmas Eve service this Saturday at 4:00 p.m. and you’ll get to see my daughter sing. It’s her only public performance this year:)
Look, I am a very practical person. My marriage has been broken for several years. I have continued to try as most of us have. The more I research the whole racket called divorce/dissolution, the more I am convinced that it is an utter absurdity.
What IS certain is that once you enter the illusion called legal divorce, you surrender your individual privacy, asset disposal, and convictions about fairness to an institutional bureaucracy that is inept and despicably SUBJECTIVE.
So my course of action will be to petition for dissolution and strive to hammer out a written agreement with my spouse that will culminate in an uncontested ruling. Failing to come to terms with my spouse, I will simple leave the marriage residence, make a new start, and never look back. Embracing the ludicrous protocol we call “legal divorce” at all is insane enough. I couldn’t take enough baths and showers to stomach the “contested-divorce” pageantry. The legislators and court officers who incestuously perpetuate this perversion should be ashamed.
Gucci,
Thank you for visiting my site and for your comments.
I say over and over again that there is nothing fair about divorce. In a perfect world we would not have the need for divorces and all marriages would be thriving. But unfortunately that’s not the case.
I am glad that you’ll try to hammer out your own agreement. Again, if you’ve read my site you probably already know that I’m a big believer in spouses trying to work out issues between themselves without having to go to the court for resolution.
I will say that although divorce isn’t “fair” the system that we do have is the best system out there, even with its many flaws.
Good luck, and again thank you for reading and your comments.
Jami Ferrell