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Still Want to Save Your Marriage – Here are some videos to help you

December 19, 2011 By 2 Comments

Back in July I originally wrote about a little quirk that I have as a Memphis Divorce Lawyer. That quirk is that I actually don’t want to see you get divorced. I’d much rather you be able to work out everything with your spouse and save your marriage. You can read that original post here.

Well, this month I’m back with more links to videos that I think could really help you if you’re looking to save your marriage.

These videos are something that I believe every single person who is considering a divorce should view. And like the last video I linked up, these too feature Andy Savage who is the teaching pastor at Highpoint Church in Memphis, TN.

The title of Andy’s series is “A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage“. There are four videos, each with a different theme. I’m linking each of these videos for you below.

Video 1: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “YOU are the Problem”

Video 2: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “The Three Fundamental Skills of Marriage”

Video 3: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “The Intimacy Gap”

Video 4: A Ridiculous Idea Called Marriage – “Why we fight”

 

Or, if you’re looking for all the videos in one place you can find them here.

Again, I can’t stress how important it is to first attempt to save your message before you ever give me a call. Watch these videos and do a lot of self-reflection, then watch them with your spouse if at all possible. These videos may not end up helping you save your marriage, but I promise you will be a better person for watching them and you’ll be better prepared for the trials ahead.

Also, if you’re looking for somewhere to turn to during these dark days please visit Highpoint Church here in Memphis. It’s the church I attend and love. I think you’ll find that it’s a different kind of church experience. It’s full of people who know that they aren’t perfect and know that you probably aren’t either.

You can find them on the web at HighpointMemphis.com.

 

P.S. Come to Highpoint’s Christmas Eve service this Saturday at 4:00 p.m. and you’ll get to see my daughter sing. It’s her only public performance this year:)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This Memphis Divorce Lawyer Wants to Save Your Marriage

July 14, 2011 By Leave a Comment
Although I’m a “divorce lawyer” I’m also a default counselor for my clients and others who visit my office for consultations. If you meet with me it’s very likely that you’re going to hear me say that I feel it’s always best to do everything you can to save your marriage before going down the path of  divorce. This is especially true when there are kids involved because, no matter if you divorce or not, your spouse is always going to be a huge part of your life. You will be dealing with (and putting up with) each other as long as both of you walk the earth.
I’m a divorce lawyer who, oddly enough, doesn’t endorse divorce. But when my clients do elect to go down that road, I try to make it as painless as possible for everyone.
You’ll also likely hear me tell you that if you’ve done everything you can to save your marriage, and it just can’t be saved, then you should next attempt to do everything you can to pursue an amicable and uncontested divorce. A long and ugly divorce is never good for anyone involved (except for the lawyer who is charging you by the hour). Unless you are in a situation where your spouse can’t be trusted or there is abuse involved it’s always best emotionally and financially to pursue an uncontested divorce.

 

At my office here in Memphis I don’t count my personal success  in dollars and cents, but in lives I’ve touched. Last year I had seven clients who started the divorce process but reconciled as they worked through the realities of what their soon to be new life would look like without each other. These seven clients have a total of eleven children who are going to go home tonight to both their mother and father. And so far this year it looks like I have four couples (with nine children total) who have reconciled.

 

In each of these reconciliations it is because the couples stepped back, listened to each other, and made changes and concessions in order to save their family. But I like to think that a small part of this is because of the different approach that I require my clients take when going through an uncontested divorce. My approach means that even though they are going through a divorce, they are able to work together in such a way as to not create more conflict. This is something that’s different from any other attorney here in Memphis and requires both the husband and wife to work together before I create or file any documents. I wish other Memphis divorce lawyers would do the same thing, but it’s a lot less lucrative for them than traditional methods where they end up creating lots of marital conflict which generates lots of divorce fees for them.
Andy Savage

Andy Savage, Highpoint Church Memphis

 

With this being said, I’m working to create and develop resources to help you save your marriage from ending in divorce. Part of these resources will be information from outside sources such as counselors and pastors. And the first resource I’m posting today is a video where Andy Savage from Highpoint Church in Memphis discusses love and relationships. Andy has done a wonderful job in helping couples who are facing marital problems and considering divorce, and I hope that you find his advice and message helpful.

 

 

Jami Ferrell is a divorce lawyer in Memphis, TN and may be reached by contacting him at 901-754-1340 or by email at James@MemphisDivorceFirm.com
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