Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry that your divorce was particularly troublesome. Every divorce is difficult, but yours definitely sounds like it was difficult for you. I can only give you well wishes for the future and hope that you are able to go forward with better luck in your relationships (and counsel) in the future.

Jami

There seems to be a common myth out there that you are entitled to a free divorce if your spouse is in jail. I once even had someone come to my office and tell my that it was “the law” that I had to accept her divorce case for $1 because her husband was in jail. But this is a myth, and is completely untrue. No matter if your spouse is in jail or free as a bird you don’t get a free divorce.

Thanks for your comments and for checking out my Memphis divorce lawyer website.

Thanks for reading my little site here and for your comments and questions.

Wow, your friend has a lot of things going. Unfortunately I can’t dive into answers for most of your questions, there are just too many things that factor into this. My answers would be full of a lot of “maybe’s”. For example he may have to pay alimony, he may not. He probably will have a cause of action in the divorce due to the Wife’s infidelity.

The one question I can answer definitively is the one about whether he needs to get an attorney, this is a definite YES. Call somebody today. He may be able to have a legal services group help him somewhat (in Memphis he would contact Memphis Area Legal Services aka MALS), but just because he is disabled doesn’t mean that he will get free legal aid. In fact, for divorces there is almost never free legal aid. (And there probably really shouldn’t be free legal aid for divorces in my opinion because no one ever makes someone get married to begin with. So why should others pay the legal fees for someone else’s choices in life?)

Again, thanks for ready and your questions.

Jami Ferrell

Thank you for visiting my site and for your comments.

I say over and over again that there is nothing fair about divorce. In a perfect world we would not have the need for divorces and all marriages would be thriving. But unfortunately that’s not the case.

I am glad that you’ll try to hammer out your own agreement. Again, if you’ve read my site you probably already know that I’m a big believer in spouses trying to work out issues between themselves without having to go to the court for resolution.

I will say that although divorce isn’t “fair” the system that we do have is the best system out there, even with its many flaws.

Good luck, and again thank you for reading and your comments.

Jami Ferrell

What IS certain is that once you enter the illusion called legal divorce, you surrender your individual privacy, asset disposal, and convictions about fairness to an institutional bureaucracy that is inept and despicably SUBJECTIVE.

So my course of action will be to petition for dissolution and strive to hammer out a written agreement with my spouse that will culminate in an uncontested ruling. Failing to come to terms with my spouse, I will simple leave the marriage residence, make a new start, and never look back. Embracing the ludicrous protocol we call “legal divorce” at all is insane enough. I couldn’t take enough baths and showers to stomach the “contested-divorce” pageantry. The legislators and court officers who incestuously perpetuate this perversion should be ashamed.

I hate to be a party pooper for you, but your ex is legally married. Technically you and her became divorced the moment the judge signed your final decree of divorce. The divorce just wasn’t 100% absolutely positively undoable (is that a word?) until the 30 days had passed after which you could have appealed the divorce. But that didn’t mean the new marriage she entered was invalid. Her new marriage was valid. The only way it could have been improper is if you had appealed the final divorce within 30 days. Then the new marriage would have been void because technically she was still (semi) married to you.

Doesn’t make much sense, but it’s the law. And in the world of Memphis divorce law a lot of things don’t make sense at times.